Herbie Hancock had been working with the Miles Davis Quintet for a while, and he found that he was in a rut. Everything he played seemed formulaic and sounded the same. Davis saw his frustration and offered some advice, "Don't play the butter notes."
"Butter notes?" thought Herbie. "What is that? Does 'butter' mean 'fat'? Or does it mean 'obvious'? I had to think about it, and finally realized that if I left out the notes that most clearly define the chords it would allow the harmonies to open up to various views."
So it is with life. We can spend our whole life playing "the butter notes". Or we can live in a way that expands our possibilities, opening up our future to various views and perspectives. And the people around you will respond to the interest and exploration, taking both of you to different places.
The openness is attractive, and inspiring.