Thursday, January 24, 2013

Passion Party #471 - Hit The Reset Button

I hate recommitting.
There is an element of failure,
a sense of duty.
A recommit often becomes a should
and most "shoulds" are doomed.
The parent's voice in my head says,
"you said you would do it.
Now you didn't.
You're a loser."
Wouldn't it be nice to have a reset button like on a computer
that lets you get back to the factory settings with one click.
If it is true that deep inside
I know the right thing to do,
then if I hit the reset button
3-5 times a day
I may stray off course but I can correct before the pain arrives.
This is not hard at all
it just means finding someone I love
being willing
and asking for help

Friday, January 18, 2013

Passion Party #470 - A List of New Actions

Thank you to my business coach, Joe Stumpf.  At our seminar last week, Joe presented these ideas on changing old habits that no longer serve us into new actions to get where we want to go.  I could relate to many of them.  I hope you find this list as helpful as I did.
OLD HABIT:                        Giving up if not perfect
NEW ACTION:            Seeking imperfection
                                    Perfect is not attainable
                                    Be willing to go public before its perfect
                                    Progress not perfection.

OLD HABIT:                        Once I overcome resistance it is gone for good
NEW ACTION:            One day at a time, I go to battle with my resistance.

OLD HABIT:                        Recommit only when off course (Wait for the pain before I                                                 refocus)
NEW ACTION:            Hit the reset button 3-5 times a day.
                                    Find someone I love and be willing to share, ask for help

OLD HABIT:                        Judge my issues as “bad”
NEW ACTION:            Accept my habits as what helped me get where I am, and                                                 ask “will this habit get me where I want to go next?”

OLD HABIT:                        Closed down when there is a problem
NEW ACTION:            “Open during remodeling”

OLD HABIT:                        View success as an event, the goal to be reached
NEW ACTION:            Success is a process that reveals who I am becoming

OLD HABIT:                        Hanging on to my old story
NEW ACTION:            Forgive others and myself, be willing to let go of the past
OLD HABIT:                        Avoid difficulty
NEW ACTION:            I know my transformation begins when I turn towards                                                 difficulty.  I am willing to face the hardest thing first.

OLD HABIT:                        Everything is a curse or a blessing
NEW ACTION:            Everything is a chance to discover my willingness to get                                                 past fear

OLD HABIT:                        Using Responsibility as self-motivation
NEW ACTION:            Using Commitment as self-motivation

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Passion Party #469 - Old Habits Vs. New Actions

I don't believe in new year's resolutions
but I do believe that we can change.
The great thing about being human
is we can choose to do something different
and this choice
can take us down a different path
lead to new lands
and possibly a new life.

I want to look at old habits
that perhaps no longer serve me
and find the new actions
that can take me where I want to go
or even lead me to things that
I never thought I could achieve.

Acgtions that represent my generous life
Actions that reflect my trustworthy nature
Actions that speak to
the prosperous life I am already living.

Out with the old
        in with the new.